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It was so much fun hearing people’s reactions to Teen Slang Quiz #1 that I thought I’d try to make it an ongoing series… at least as long as my slang knowledge holds out! Same rules as last time—take note of your answer then, after you’ve answered all the questions, check your answers at the bottom of the post. Good luck! (Don’t be a Mork!)

1.Early Nerd Special

a. What teens call their parents and grandparents who get up before noon to go to breakfast.

b. When people wait in line overnight for tickets, as to the first showing of the new Star Wars or Star Trek movie.

c. Refers to classes that take place during zero hour (before the regular school day starts)

2. Hacker

a. Someone who drives his/her friends everywhere, like a taxi cab

b. someone who dances badly

c. someone who has a sufficient amount of computer knowledge to figure out passwords, get around security systems, and break into others’ accounts and programs.

3. n00b (weird spelling is intentional!)

a. cell phone text/SMS code for “no other beer” to alert friends that parents have unexpectedly stayed home or returned home earlier than expected, ruining party plans.

b. derogatory term used to describe a new female student’s breasts

c. term usually used in online forums to describe someone who is a new user or new to a particular activity on the internet.

4. tool

a. derogatory term used to describe someone with seemingly limited intelligence

b. slang for a car that’s a “fixer-upper”

c. money (loot spelled backwards)

5. badonkadonk

a. derogatory term used to describe someone who seems a little (or a lot) nuts

b. slang for a larger-than-average rear end

c. term used to replace any cuss word

6. nucca

a. slang for marijuana

b. slang for naked

c. a questionably more accepted term instead of the “N word” to describe black people

7. fo sho

a. text/SMS abbreviation for “four shots”, as in alcohol shots

b. shortened form of “for sure”; of course; you bet; yes

c. refers to a person wearing a button-down shirt that has too many buttons undone

8. fugly

a. shortened form of “f*cking ugly*, usually used to describe a person’s physical attractiveness

b. code for a hangover, usually used around any adults that wouldn’t approve.

c. a type of tennis shoe with wheels, also known as “heelies”.

9. Git er done

a. refers to teenage weekend plans for cutting loose and having fun (along the lines of “painting the town red”)

b. can refer to a number of things that need to be accomplished or finished, such as work, homework, winning a sports game, etc.

c. a skateboard stunt

10. heffa

a. term for a large burger like a Whopper or Big Mac

b. derivative of “jefe”, the Spanish term for “boss”

c. term used to describe a female who has done something crazy or who is larger-than-average (or both); can also be used for gay males.

Answers:

1. b (See http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Early+Nerd+Special)

2. c (See http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=hacker)

3. c (See http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=n00bs)

4. a (See http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=tool)

5. b (See http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=badonkadonk)

6. c (See http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=nucca)

7. b (See http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=fo+sho)

8. a (See http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=fugly)

9. b (See http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=git+er+done)

10. c (See http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=heffa)

Continuing along with the inspiration for yesterday’s post, it’s time I do a post on sex and teens. Obviously, this will have to be an ongoing series as there is entirely too much to talk about in just one post. While parents may wish talking about sex was a one time gig, it really just isn’t. The world is too complex, there’s too much potential for exposure to sexual topics, and children are exposed to more adult topics earlier than ever—you need to talk to your children about sex more than once in a lifetime.

A recent article in Slate magazine highlights the findings from a study  published this month in the Journal of Adolescent Health. The study reviews data from 2,271 adolescent males and females, ages 15-19, taken in 2002. The teens self-reported their answers through a computer-assisted process—that means they didn’t have to face someone and reveal their answers on sensitive topics such as… oral sex.

Don’t pretend you don’t know what I’m talking about. If you lived through the Bill Clinton-Monica Lewinsky scandal , you know all about oral sex, blow jobs, and off-label uses for cigars. Well, guess what? Your teen also knows all about oral sex.

The Journal of Adolescent Health study reveals that 54% of teen girls and 55% of teen boys admit to having had oral sex. Better yet (I’m being sarcastic!), most teens see oral sex as the first step towards vaginal sex. As in, you do oral before you venture into the actual coital sex. This is quite backwards from some generations, who either completely abstained from oral sex or who didn’t venture into oral sex until after “perfecting” the vaginal sex experience.

Okay, so if you’re still reading, give yourself a pat on the back. It’s hard to face talking to your teen about sex, period. But having to talk about oral sex is probably making your mind scream. Take a deep breath cuz it’s going to be okay. As I mentioned earlier, they probably already know all about it. Your job is to be frank, talk about safety precautions (condoms, dental dams), and let them know that oral sex is not a “safe sex alternative.” You can still contract sexually transmitted diseases and infections from oral sex.

And just in case you want to know more basics on oral sex, here is a wikipedia link (wikipedia being an online encyclopedia with references and editors and such, so it’s not smut or porn!): http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oral_sex.

I’ve gone to my fair share of midnight showings of new movies at the theater. Usually, though, it’s a movie that is of great interest to whoever I’m dating. Once I saw the midnight release of the re-release of a “Star Wars” movie, another time was a midnight showing of one of the “Harry Potter” movies (yes, I’m telling the truth—a grown man wanted to see this at midnight), and I think the other was one of the Matrix movies. Anyway, tonight I am anxious to see a midnight showing for a movie that, for once, I’m the one dying to go—the “Sex and the City” movie! As I was planning my night, it occurred to me that if I had thought this was a movie whose premiere tickets would have sold out, I may have been willing to stand outside overnight or something to get them. I’ve never been that crazy about anything. But that kind of behavior seems to happen more and more often these days.

People wait outside, overnight, waiting for the doors to open to Best Buy on Black Friday (the Friday after Thanksgiving, for those of you not in the know). They wait for the release of the latest video game system, cell phone, and certain movies. So the question occurred to me, “Should teens be allowed to wait outside, overnight, unsupervised?”

The answer is: It Depends. Here are some questions to ask yourself if ever presented with this dilemma:

* Is my teen mature enough?

It may seem like a relatively tame thing to do and chances are lots of people will be there if your teen is interested in it, but the fact is—the majority of those people waiting in line with your teen are going to be strangers. Even if your teen is going with a group of his or her friends, are you comfortable not knowing who all those other people are, sleeping on the sidewalk and trying to entertain themselves for hours on end?

* What is the level of my teen’s independence?

And I don’t mean just their self-declared independence. Can they really handle being outside overnight without needing your assistance? Can they plan for being hungry, thirsty, needing to use the bathroom, etc?

* Do I trust my teen’s judgment?

Are they street smart? Are they going to trust complete strangers? Teens, when left unsupervised and with a group of their friends, can sometimes give in to group mentality. Group mentality tends to think there’s safety in numbers, even when the teens’ behavior is inappropriate. Chances are, your teen wouldn’t start randomly running around and acting crazy if they were waiting in line without their friends… but if all of them start doing it, they may think it’s okay. But there’s just no telling who in that line is going to either take offense or try to take advantage of the situation to move some people in front (your teens) out of line. Something that’s a small problem or annoyance could quickly turn into a major issue.

* Where is my teen going to be waiting?

If you’re even considering it, scope out the location ahead of time. Are there street lamps? Is there a lot of traffic? Do you feel comfortable with the part of town? Is the store/business/theater going to be monitoring people who line up early or overnight?

If you decide that waiting in line for X is something your teen is ready for, I would still recommend taking some safety precautions. If at all possible, make sure your teen has a cell phone with them that they agree to keep turned on at all times AND that they must agree to answer. If there is a group of teens going together, see if you can communicate ahead of time with the other teens’ parents and maybe make a schedule, taking turns, of parents stopping by to check on the teens. You can easily make up excuses—“Just wanted to bring you all some sodas, candy bars, pizza, etc.” Or, better yet, if one of the parents is willing to stay in line with them, lend your support to that parent however you can. Even having a parent in a car in the parking lot could be an appropriate alternative that gives the teens some space but also leaves them a safety net.

Thanks for reading! Time to get ready for my big movie night!

Previously, we talked about teens going back to work at summer activities they enjoyed in their (younger) youth. This is still a great idea, but what if your teen isn’t quite old enough for a summer job? What if your teen just isn’t ready to give up the summer activities they’re used to? What if they want to focus on something that will help them do better in the coming school year or simply pursue an interest there isn’t usually time for? Summer camps are not just for elementary and junior high school students. Though it may seem last minute, there is still time to get your teen signed up for camp. But you should probably go ahead and stick that sleeping bag in the washer that’s been in the garage since last summer!

Academic Camps: Academic camps are places where teens can go to get additional school credits, perhaps in an effort to get caught up on credits if they’re behind, or to help them to graduate earlier.

At educationunlimited.com, you can sort through camps by grade (grades 4-12 are accepted), subjects (acting to college prep), or location (multiple locations on the West Coast, an East Coast College tour, and one at Club Med in Florida!). Applications are online or you can request a brochure. Sessions typically last from 1-6 weeks, depending on which program your teen picks.

Located in New Hampshire,Brewster Academy Summer Session allows children ages 12-18 to earn school credit, as well as provides them with a Macintosh laptop for the duration of their stay, with connectivity available from over 3000 ports on campus. (May I just add that homesickness would have been so much less a problem if we’d had email when I was at summer camp 25 years ago!) The camp is a good blend of academics and outdoor and recreational activities.

If your teen is going to college in the fall, they can get a head start on their college credits by attending camp at Sage Outdoor Learning. There, 100 and 200 level classes are taught through an adventure/wilderness/recreation format in 4-week blocks. Students can choose from several subjects including field biology and American government. The teacher: student ration is 1:15, maximum. There are even times for parents to visit their new college students! Though the college credits are through the Utah Universities system, they are transferable to other colleges and universities across the
U.S. But check with your teen’s school first, to see if the credits will be accepted!

Stay tuned—further summer camp posts will focus on sports camps, hobbies, camper insurance, and whatever else I can think of! I loved camp growing up and think it’s a fantastic activity for just about any child or teen!

With the national unemployment rate hovering around 5% for the last several months, and the economy seeming to be not-quite-stimulated, job loss is a consideration. The good news, if you want to call it that, is that this 5% unemployment rate is relatively unchanged from a year ago. The bad news is, even the gainfully employed may be experiencing struggles right now as gas prices drive up the prices of nearly everything else. Regardless of what statistics say, everywhere I turn I hear more stories of job loss or struggles to find jobs.

This could be due to the region I live in—an area full of factories, sensitive to lay-offs whenever the economy takes a down-turn. It could be merely coincidental that so many people I, personally, know are struggling with unemployment at the same time. Maybe the numbers just don’t reflect our reality yet.

If you or your teen is struggling with job loss, there are some things you can do to help you through this challenging time.

1. Live and Learn. Teenagers need to know that bad things happen to even the best, kindest, hardest working people. Sometimes that includes job loss. If you, as the parent, experience the job loss, do your best to handle it in a manner that will be beneficial to your team. I’m certainly not implying that you plaster a perma-grin on your face and sing happy songs… but your attitude will do a great deal in determining how your teen faces the news. If you are overly disgruntled, vengeful, depressed, etc., your teen is going to believe and perhaps the same way.

2. Practice Optimism. I recently read an article that applies to any type of challenging situation. Though it never specifically mentions job loss, I feel optimism is highly important for times of unemployment. There is a lot that can be said about the mind-body connection. If you believe bad things happen to you, and you brood on this, your thoughts will reflect that, your actions will reflect that; your world will reflect that. Likewise, if you can re-train yourself to think positively, you’ll change your thoughts; change your world.

3. Don’t Sweat the Material Things. This will, most likely, be harder on your teen than it is on you. Many teens feel their “stuff”—their clothes, their accessories, their gadgets—is as much of who they are as their souls! Telling them there’s going to be one less income for awhile can be almost like telling them they have to give up a kidney. Parents: Do not give in to the guilt! Cell phones, iPods, designer clothing, and expensive shoes are not a right. Material things are privileges and unnecessary. Chances are, you didn’t have as much stuff as your teen growing up and guess what? You’re still alive. Be sensitive to a teen’s despair but remind yourself that they’ll adjust.

4. Make it a Team Effort. No matter what your family situation is, when job loss occurs the whole family needs to pitch in. Not just one person should be singled out to cut back. Not just one person should be paying attention to job leads. Everyone needs to help out. You’re a family. If everyone functions merely as individuals in time of crisis, what’s the point of living together as a family?

5. Get Creative. Just because the fundage may not be available for destiny vacations this summer, doesn’t mean you can’t find joy and fun. Rediscover your home town. Many times, the only people who haven’t seen your town’s tourist attractions are the townies! When you live somewhere, you tend to take for granted that you can always get around to visiting the local museum or attractions. But years can go by without ever making an effort. When money is short, this is an ideal time to get to the things you’ve been overlooking. After all, a staycation is the hottest trend in vacations!

Many times when I’ve been working with teens and their parents, the parents will list their grievances with their teen. These frequently include: they don’t listen, they smoke cigarettes, they cuss, and all they want to do is watch t.v. or play video games. Because I’ve worked extensively in the homes of these families, I get a different perspective of what is really going on. I see what the family has, which gives me a clue to their priorities (are they saying they’re financially strapped but they have a 52 inch plasma t.v. and designer clothes while the kids are on free lunches?) and to their “real world” behaviors. True, having a professional in your home isn’t going to always lead to people acting *exactly* like they would any other time, but it’s still closer to their natural behavior than if they’re sitting in a clinical office with you.

 What I’ve come to understand in the past few years is that trying to tell a teen to not do something DOES NOT WORK if they see/hear their own parents doing it every day. If Mom and Dad don’t watch their language around the kids, there’s a pretty good chance the kids aren’t going to, either. If Mom and Dad smoke cigarettes, there’s a good chance their teen isn’t going to take the no smoking rule seriously, either.

This applies in more serious matters, as well. If parents are involved in domestic violence at home, they shouldn’t be surprised if their own kids get into physical fights at school or with their own boyfriends/girlfriends. If kids hear that their parents don’t respect authority, the kids aren’t going to respect their principals, teachers, etc.

A good friend of mine strongly believes that, for the most part, what one does in one’s own home is their business. Therefore, if someone wants to raise a lazy, stupid child, they should be allowed to without interference from the government. While I respect the core of his argument and political beliefs, I do not personally agree that things should be quite so hands-off.

I suppose lots of things would be different if I was Queen of the World, though.

If you’ve turned on the news in the last 12 hours or so, you’ve probably heard about what’s going on in Texas. Last month, over 400 children were removed by Child Protective Services  after receiving a call, allegedly from an unwed pregnant 16 year old female who alleged sexual abuse. When workers were sent to investigate, they found what they felt was a high number of young, pregnant girls, and a pattern of sexual relationships between young girls and older men. In Texas, children can only be removed from their homes without going to court if there is a clear immediate danger of further abuse. CPS felt they had enough evidence of all the children being in danger (the girls were in danger of being sexually abused, the boys in danger of being raised as perpetrators of sexual abuse), and removed all of the children. The children are now placed in foster care homes all over the state and hundreds of lawyers are representing the grieving parents, who feel they are being persecuted for their religious beliefs.

From the start, this is a case that has broken my heart. I think I would have been far less empathic with the mothers of these children, had I not been a mother myself. But knowing that over half of the children removed were under the age of 5, some as young as a few weeks old, is just almost too much for me to handle.

I, too, have harbored some suspicions about certain religions (or sects of religions) and their apparent belief in polygamy. I want no child to be abused or raised as an abuser. But in a compound as big as Yearning For Zion (YFZ for short), I’ve always wondered, statistically, how the number of pregnant minors there compares to the numbers in the rest of the
U.S. I originally heard that maybe 10% of the teen girls were pregnant—a number that is ridiculously high. But in an article I read today on CPS’s decision being overruled by a higher court, the number of underage mothers has been decreased, for various reasons, to just 15– a number that, right now, doesn’t seem as ridiculously out of proportion to the rest of the
U.S.

I am hopeful that this situation can reach a safe and peaceful conclusion very soon.

There are some things that teens are doing that parents may wonder, “Is that okay? Should I be concerned?” I always encourage parents to listen to their guts—if they are very suspicious about something, there may be good reason. But other times, it may just be lack of information or familiarity with something that leads parents to worry. Below are some trends that I, personally and professionally, think are okay for teens. Remember, though, that your household is your household. If you feel strongly that something is not okay, you have the right to enforce that in your home. I’m just offering a different perspective and opinion to consider.

1. Vitamins    

Vitamins are good for everyone! A good, daily multi-vitamin is recommended for nearly anyone 2 years old and older. If you’re concerned, call your family doctor and double-check. What you should be concerned with is supplements. Most kids, if they are eating a well-balanced diet and taking a basic multivitamin, do not need any sorts of supplements unless they are suggested by their doctors. Do the research yourself, though, if your teen has a bottle of something you’re not familiar with. Don’t be afraid to banish something that is unnecessary or makes outlandish promises of weight loss, clear skin, muscle building, etc.

2. Water        

As long as your (or their) wallet can handle the price of the expensive bottled waters out there, it’s fine. There are “green” considerations, though—all the plastic from all those water bottles are taking over our landfills. Some of the flavored waters actually have a lot of sugar and/or carbohydrates in them that are unnecessary. But regular bottled water, though probably no better than tap water, probably won’t hurt your teen. It’s a bit of a status symbol for teens but drinking water is a good habit for picky teens.

3. Tea             

There are lots of articles out there about the benefits of tea (black, green, white, and oolong). There is some caffeine in tea, which can be a concern for parents. But it’s less than ½ the amount found in a cup of coffee and certainly less than in cans of Mountain Dew or other energy drinks.

4. Reading     

One of the greatest gifts my mother gave me was a love of reading. One way she did this was to never censor the books I chose. I’m sure there were times when she thought, “What is that?!” but she kept her mouth shut. For her, it was more important to encourage and develop that love of reading than to discourage it by telling me I couldn’t read this or that. It’s a principle that I agree with and plan to follow with my own daughter.

5. Music         

This is probably one of my more controversial views. I do not think there’s any point to censoring the type of music your teen listens to. Note that I said “teen”. I do not think it’s appropriate for toddlers and elementary students to listen to gangster rap that’s full of words you don’t want them repeating. They don’t have filters developed yet to know what is appropriate and what isn’t. By adolescence, if your teen is still impressionable enough to be persuaded that song lyrics equate with real life, you have bigger problems than the music itself. However, I am not saying that you should turn a deaf ear to your teen blaring their preferred music any time they wish. If their preferred music isn’t your type of preferred music, you need to establish those limits with them. I, personally, can’t stand loud music. Headphones were invented for a reason!

6. Writing      

Teenagers feel strong and confusing emotions during adolescence. For a lot of them, they feel they have no one they can really trust with their innermost thoughts. Therefore, writing becomes an escape. I see a lot of teen boys who express these thing through writing song lyrics or through drawing and doodling. Teen girls tend to prefer journaling (diaries) and poetry. **DISCLAIMER** A pattern of violent drawings, “hit lists” (where kids list everyone they would kill), and writing about lots of violent things can be strong indications that your teen needs professional evaluations and help by a psychologist and/or therapist. Please do not ignore that kind of writing/drawing/doodling. It’s better to be safe than sorry.

I’m now beginning my tenth year of working with teens. Typically, these teens are referred to as “at-risk”. It’s a term I’ve never really agreed with because it seems, to me, that if you’re at-risk, you merely have the potential to find yourself in some sort of trouble. But every “at-risk” teen I’ve worked with is already involved in one or several systems. By systems, I mean the juvenile justice system, a mental health system, a department of child and family services, and/or a special education system. In case you and your child are dealing with one of these systems, it may be helpful to understand the basics of what each one is. Especially if your teen is involved in multiple systems, it can all become very confusing and very overwhelming.  

The juvenile justice system is the equivalent of adult criminal court. In dealing with the juvenile justice system, your teen may have to go to teen court, court, day reporting, and/or a juvenile detention center. If your teen is charged with a crime or infraction, there may also be a “first time offender” type program for the teen to complete. For example, I once worked with a teen who had received a ticket for cigarette possession. The fine was approximately $100. or he could attend six weeks of non-smoking education classes and the ticket and fine would be cleared.

If your teen is involved in a mental health system, there is a broad continuum of care that your teen could be involved with. This ranges from outpatient classes to inpatient acute hospitalization or longer-term residential hospitalization. Outpatient classes for teens could include substance abuse education, social skills, ADLs (Activities of Daily Living). Outpatient therapy is also available, in which your teen would meet with a counselor or therapist for a set amount of time on a regular basis. Day treatment is another part of this continuum, which typically involves a child or teen reporting to the facility for part or all of the school day. Day treatment programs usually incorporate a school component, along with more structure, a therapeutic component for students to work on social and behavioral skills, and additional staff support beyond just a teacher. Short-term and longer-term hospitalizations may also be appropriate for teens who are in crisis or who have severe emotional and/or behavioral issues that they are struggling with.

Another system that goes by different names in different states, is the department of child and family services. Some also refer to this agency as “welfare” or “CPS”—child protective services. This agency typically is involved in issues involving kids or teens that have been in danger (usually due to some sort of abuse or neglect) or who are a danger to themselves and others. This agency can heavily overlap the juvenile justice and mental health systems. They typically are “in charge” of a case and coordinate with the court and mental health facilities to obtain the necessary services for their clients. Some cases are handled by keeping children with their families; others require out-of-home placement in sheltercare, foster care, acute hospitalization, or residential placement.

Finally, there is the special education system. This system varies from school corporation to school corporation. It exists to protect children in the public education system who require additional assistance to learn and succeed. It is also referred to as special needs. The students involved in this system can have learning disabilities, emotional disabilities, or a combination of both. They typically have special teachers and/or special classes that support them to the degree that it is a) needed and b) wanted. Accommodations can be made for special needs students, to help them succeed. Such accommodations can include using calculators on math tests, having tests read to them, getting additional time for tests, etc. Special education designations can not be forced on students. Parents/guardians have to be involved the process and approve of any education plans for their child(ren).

I hope I have not further confused you. In future posts, I can go more in depth on the services and people involved in each of these systems. For now, I just wanted to lay out some of the basics. Being the parent of a teen that is involved in any of these systems can be confusing, frustrating, and intimidating. The more information you have, the more you can advocate for your teen and support their needs and rights.

As I’ve mentioned before, I love working with teenagers. I love their ever-changing, evolving culture. Sometimes, I admit that I laugh at it, but most of the time I do respect that they try (and succeed!) to be original and “not like our (boring) parents”. Of course, we don’t think we’re boring, do we? We remember being young and hip teens. Surely we haven’t lost all of that already, have we? You tell me—check out the slang before and see if you get the “right” answers. (Hint: Write down your answers and then check them at the end of the article. Links follow the answers so you can check out the definitions yourself!) Have fun!

1. Beta

a. Software or programming not yet quite finished. Example: “FaceSpace is in  Beta. It should be available to everyone in the fall.”

b. A type of video tape format that lost out to VHS back in the 80s.

c. Cool

2. Mork                      

a. as in “Mork and Mindy”. Duh.

b. It’s the name of a popular online video game.

c. A dull, witless person.

3. Butters                    

a. Um, the stuff you put on bread?

b. A character from “South Park”

c. an ugly person

4. Diesel                      

a. A clothing brand

b. Heroin

c. A big, strong, muscled person

5. Wife Beaters           

a. men who commit domestic violence on their wives

b. mixer attachments; used by some men to beat their wives

c. men’s white tank top shirts

6. Stack                      

a. a bunch of pancakes, piled on top of each other

b. $1,000.

c. a cigarette

7. Dope                       

a. marijuana

b. cool

c. heroin

8. Kickin’ it                 

a. connecting foot to object, intending to move object

b. hanging out with one’s friends

c. withdrawing from a drug

9. Niebu                      

a. a dance move, popular in hip hop clubs

b. a type of self-defense

c. a greeting or salutation, along the lines of “Aloha!”

10. Tag                       

a. a personal signature, usually done with spraypaint

b. someone’s screen name

c. the childhood game of chasing and “tagging” someone

Answers:         

1.  a, c (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=beta)

2.  c (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Mork)

3.  b, c (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=butters)

4.  a, b, c (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=diesel)

5.  c (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=wife+beaters)

6.  b (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=stack)

7.  a,b,c (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=dope)

8.  b (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=kickin%27+it)

9.  c http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=niebu)

10. a (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=tag)